I found a good advice article. I’m going to have my son read it when he’s near dating age.
As a woman, it’s a relief not to see another worthless log of dating advice bobbing in the bowl of our internet.
Times are going to be tough for our “little” guys in the near future. The more real men there are who can lay down the real truths for them, the better.
5 Things Men do to make Themselves Less Attractive-by Dr. NerdLove
Ten out of ten times (when I was a dateable young thing) if I ran across a man who wasn’t exactly that appealing to the eyes, it wasn’t a big deal. As females we have much more forgiving tastes than our brothers. The “complete package” comes in a variety of walks, occupations and smiling eyes. Males fall in love with what we have to show. Females fall in love with what they have to say.
Ten out of ten times if he wasn’t good looking at all, I could easily delight in his conversation and confidence. Words spoken about his beliefs, his life or any number of clues lending to the “treasure of our potential.”
However. And this is a BIG “however”…
If it turns out that the words turn out to be a bunch of malarkey, his views on life and what he’s “all about” turning out to be complete falsehoods….
ten out of ten times whatever warm feelings and joyful noises, originally associated with those words, die a lousy death. The bare bones of unattractive features once ignored are now magnified.
It’s like getting into your car for an enjoyable trip. Your new love interest, while enthusiastically talking about sites to visit, tells you he’s going to fill the tank with some gas. Be back in a jiffy.
You’re excited. You wait. And you’re going to wait a long time because it’s not gas he pumped into the tank, it’s water.
The fact you had to wait is bad enough, but now you’re not going anywhere..ever.
You don’t need me to illustrate how very differently one may end up seeing
things before and after slamming the door to exit this now useless car.
If the deceit goes deep enough, chances are that your eyes will be spilling the beans on him being even uglier than you imagined -sometimes explaining “why oh why” your girlfriends teased you as much as they did for dating him.
We need to teach our new generations of future husbands and lovers
so nightmarish cycles aren’t repeated. Like that whole “catching” women with memorized lines thinking it’s what “we want to hear” because they heard it in umpteen movies or umpty messages scattered throughout media over how they “aren’t good enough”; when the only man not good enough (for much of anything really) is the type of dishonest slug who lies about everything.
We need to be humble enough to lead by example and spare them lives of isolation by a misguided notion of no one “being smart enough to know better”. Which only serves to make the rejections worse and more frequent because people do notice.
We need to let our sons know they don’t need to turn themselves inside out and upside down to be loved-that there are many worthwhile women who’d count their blessings to find them just as they are, unaffected by a world knee-deep in worthless men.
Fair being fair, if your son has a sister, you’re going to want to help her out as well. Let her know she’s going to” Politically Correct” herself into a long and lonely life if she feeds into that whole “I’m a just like a dude too” garbage that’s being washed into the girls’ heads.
Ten out of ten times, a man isn’t going to crave comfort and cuddles with someone who cusses all the time like a back alley crackhead or who reminds him 8 days a week that she doesn’t need him.
What a blessing it will be if future generations secure the confidence to expect affection simply by being themselves.
Unlike us, their parents, having wasted precious time playing jive assed games pretending to be things we weren’t…only to end up lonely and miserable because of it.
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