Imperfect Perfect Men

These are the men that we will be (are being) brainwashed, bullied and even belly rubbed into doubting we can ever be.

The types like Marlon Brando and Cary Grant.

From being boys lost in the shadows to emerge as men able to walk confidently into
an often blinding light.
Desired, cherished and respected despite their earliest and enduring anxieties, disappointments and doubts.

These stories are powerful testimony to the freedom available to the man who has the courage to live his life imperfectly-

to avoid suffering as a good man enslaved by other worthless men and their engineered “pursuits of perfection”.

Or to be reminded that a man should be  allowed to be a man as he sees fit for himself..not as others see fit for him.


photo By Olesia Bilkei

No Can Do, Little Buddy…

No can do little buddy…

As we stand there wringing our hands, mouths open and helpless over this event..
Being told to stuff ourselves in Yahoo/Oath issue

Though one could easily see the dark shadow of things to come in this event from years ago..
When the EA tentacle of the all powerful hydra told us to get stuffed

..if you think we’ll ever have any hope of getting treated fairly or in a non cowardly way.
..if you think we still have any hope of “things being done right by us” from some half assed
head nodders with their half assed measures.
Where at least there’s “proof” our “servants” “were gonna do something”

..if you ever scratched your head over tapping that “I agree” button to terms of service we all have been FORCED into picking . Wondering if we’re truly believed to be that stupid as to not notice how much of a NON choice that lab rat action truly is.

..if you ever grit your teeth, pretty damned hard, over one private company after another censoring what we say, shutting us down and shutting us up, as if precious blood wasn’t sacrificed in the name of protecting our Constitutional “rights”. (Not that our being herded off to wars has ever been about something that ideal)

..if you’re looking for a solution of some sort to navigate through this ” Lording over The People via Big Business” nonsense..

“No can do, little are screwed”

is about the only thing I can even imagine anyone with the slightest amount of real power saying to us.

Well, that is, if they had any guts at all.

photo By masterzphotofo

Ten Times out of Ten

I found a good advice article. I’m going to have my son read it when he’s near dating age.

As a woman, it’s a relief not to see another worthless  log of dating advice  bobbing in the bowl of our internet.
Times are going to be tough for our “little” guys in the near future. The more real men there are who can lay down the real truths for them, the better.
5 Things Men do to make Themselves Less Attractive-by Dr. NerdLove


Ten out of ten times (when I was a dateable young thing) if I ran across a man who wasn’t exactly that appealing to the eyes, it wasn’t a big deal. As females we have much more forgiving tastes than our brothers. The “complete package” comes in a variety of walks, occupations and smiling eyes. Males fall in love with what we have to show. Females fall in love with what they have to say.

Ten out of ten times if he wasn’t good looking at all, I could easily delight in his conversation and confidence. Words spoken about his beliefs, his life or any number of clues lending to the “treasure of our potential.”

However. And this is a BIG “however”…

If it turns out that the words turn out to be a bunch of malarkey, his views on life and what he’s “all about” turning out to be complete falsehoods….
ten out of ten times whatever warm feelings and joyful noises,  originally associated with those words, die a lousy death. The bare bones of  unattractive features once ignored are now magnified.

It’s like getting into your car for an enjoyable trip. Your new love interest, while enthusiastically talking about sites to visit, tells you he’s going to fill the tank with some gas. Be back in a jiffy.
You’re excited. You wait. And you’re going to wait a long time because it’s not gas he pumped into the tank, it’s water.

The fact you had to wait is bad enough, but now you’re not going anywhere..ever.
You don’t need me to illustrate how very differently one may end up seeing
things before and after slamming the door to exit this now useless car.

If the deceit goes deep enough, chances are that your eyes will be spilling the beans on him being even uglier than you imagined -sometimes  explaining “why oh why” your girlfriends teased you as much as they did for dating him.

We need to teach our new generations of future husbands and lovers
so  nightmarish cycles aren’t repeated. Like that  whole “catching” women with memorized  lines thinking it’s what “we want to hear” because they heard it in umpteen movies or umpty messages scattered throughout media over how they “aren’t good enough”; when the only man not good enough (for much of anything really) is the type of dishonest slug who lies about everything.

We need to be humble enough to lead by example and spare them lives of isolation by a misguided notion of no one “being smart enough to know better”. Which only serves to make the rejections worse and more frequent because people do notice.

We need to let our sons know they don’t need to turn themselves inside out and upside down to be loved-that there are many worthwhile women who’d count their blessings to find them just as they are, unaffected by a world knee-deep in worthless men.

Fair being fair, if your son has a sister, you’re going to want to help her out as well. Let her know she’s going to” Politically Correct” herself into a long and lonely life if she feeds into that whole “I’m a just like a dude too” garbage that’s being washed into the girls’ heads.

Ten out of ten times, a man isn’t going to crave comfort and cuddles with someone who cusses all the time like a back alley crackhead or who reminds him 8 days a week that she doesn’t need him.

What a blessing it will be if future generations secure the confidence to expect affection simply by being themselves.

Unlike us, their parents, having wasted precious time playing jive assed games pretending to be things we weren’t…only to end up lonely and miserable because of it.

feature photo By carlos_bcn

Matthew 7:3 & Some Naughty Jeans

Here we go again, our wild hairs afire in the Crybaby Brigade..

over some jeans


There are more frequent and excessive depictions of vomiting in our films.

With the sexual groaning/moaning flowing from our tv sets it’s a wonder any of us can keep the volume up at all in our homes; not knowing when the sounds of another shameless celebrity, sharing what he or she learned about humping and grinding, cuts through the air for all the kiddies to hear.

We have family members loaning the gruesome details of their loved ones rapes and murders for what passes for entertainment to millions of viewers-with untold numbers of perverts on top of it all.

What about “sophisticated” politicians (up to and including our “honorable” presidents) airing grievances and name calling like petty schoolyard brats in public forums?

Not one day goes by on this earth where graphic depictions of splattered human head shots aren’t being encouraged, bragged about and cheered for on countless video game consoles.

But this pair of jeans is what grabs our attentions and warrants this much negative energy as to be a top trending topic?

THIS is what moves us to spend the currency of our “mature” opinions so enthusiastically, is it?

It’s not as if the majority of us even have the body to rock these obviously meant-for-the-
bedroom-or-dance-club creations.

What a shame it is, the way we whine and snigger over a lousy pair of x rated
jeans …like  horrified or giggly children, instead of mature adults able to ignore, walk on and expend precious energy upon  more important issues…THAT’s what should be trending.
Not the hypocritical hee hawing from women who ” would if they could”
and men who would drop to their knees in stunned gratefulness if Wifey came sashaying into the bedroom with them on.

For those who think I’m out of bounds and “don’t get it”, a little blast from the past out of the “good book” may serve as a kinder reminder…
Matthew 7:3

Finally, cheers to Fashion Nova, may you make a wagonload of money.

For as any “grown adult” should realize, despite the hopped up huff n puffery of disapproval, the ironic result will most definitely be an increased exposure resulting in more sales than would have been if everyone would have simply kept their indignant traps politely shut.




Laughing With the Homeless Guy

Close up portrait image of a homeless mature man, holding a cigarette and shouting.

in case the text can’t be easily read within the pic…

Laughing with the Homeless Guy

“Oh the angels get real dusted down here.”
the dirty face mumbled, teeth gnawing a hole into
the bag.
Self sealing features were obviously a special sort of hassle
Dirty Face didn’t wish to bother with. Not today anyway.
“Down here they get bruised, hunted, wasted, aced, iced..”
Dirty Face stopped on account of a really, really
long coughing fit.
“..mocked.” he managed to spit out, plucking a tiny
and wet feather from the tip of his tongue.
“Mocked.” I repeated.
“Exactly!” he laughed, appreciating my witty
and crooked compliment.
And I laughed, grateful that he still had enough
magic in him to make me
want to say it in the first place.

by Ramsy

Creative Ways to Propose

The bad news is that some of us attract mates about as romantic as a raging case of pink eye.
The good news (the only news that counts) is that not all of us turned into bitter beans because of it. Yet.
We don’t mind encouraging the young to keep hope alive about finding “that” special one who will say those special things and bring home the real sweet stuff, unasked for, into their eager ears and arms.

Maybe the road will turn out to be unpaved and rocky, dreams of gliding onto smooth asphalt busted to bits. That’s okay. It’s a really long road.

It will be the memories of the walking on air and cheeks aching from laughter .. that will keep Winter’s bite mercifully soft for them during the end of their lifetime’s season. The joyful residue from when promises once sounded a lot like truth and each kiss felt like a treat-that’s what they will turn over and again, from memory, like a favorite treasure.

Woe onto the old biddies and cranks who snatch that potential from the young because of their own rotten luck. They’ve obviously forgotten that whole thing about destination verses the journey itself. Or were just prickly little cusses that didn’t deserve the blessing of a good man or woman in the first place.

In the meantime, may there always be individuals (although weary and a bit worn around the ears) who continue to leave a little oil in the lamp for the young lovers. The ones who may need a little advice on how to keep the fires burning ..for as long as they’re lucky enough to be warmed by them.

This following article is that sort of advice  on

Creative ways to propose marriage.


As for the rest of us, we’ll keep hope alive as well ..for nothing truly is ever over until it finally is.

photo by Simon Sharayha

It’s about *#@$ing time

It’s about *#@$ing time a study was done on this.

read about study linking swearing to honesty

It’s always nice to see ongoing studies in human behavior.

Especially those that help tear at the fibers of typical assumptions that we toss so carelessly at one another.
This one explores the long held beliefs of those who cuss a lot.
It cuts us a little bit of a break explaining that not all of us crawled out from under a rock carrying that potty mouth of ours.
Besides, we need that hand free for the unspoken gestures folks also love to crab about.
It even goes as far as to posit that a good number of us aren’t as %#@*ing dumb as you
thought we were.

I’d like  to, however, add something.
While it’s refreshing to catch another sweet breath
of tolerance taught, please understand the following.
Serial killers and girlfriends who smack your face in front of God and everybody in Walmart..they’re being impressively honest too. Ok?

Learning to stop wrinkling up our noses every time others are caught doing and saying something we do behind closed one thing.

Taking this information to excuse an increase in what truly can be an offensive thing, like a snide little quite another.

photo By ukimurakung

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